Thursday, July 16, 2009
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Pornography Chapter 1
This one of the most toughest topic i ever can write. I affect me, and i know it affect thousands2 of man and woman out there. People talk and discuss regarding this topic. Politician, Theologian, Sociologist, Psychologist, to McDonald Cashier, Students, and all strata of people at least once heard the name or exposed to pornography.
What so amazing about it?
However personally speaking, i want to make my own reflection. Its not trying to define or giving a new insight about what it is and how it affect people. Its just a simple honesty on how pornography has affected my own life.
Pornography is simply fantasy, half truth - half reality. To begin with, Sex is a gift of the Divine for us to be joined in an intimate relationship with our most beloved one. It was always secured in the barrier called Marriage.
Pornography basically take away the sacred band and release the ultimate power of sex in total "freedom" and allow people to fantasize and explore the ultimate pleasure of sex without boundary. However, the trick of pornography its only stimulate certain aspect of the senses. Its never perfect and that is where the "half" part comes in. Pornography never fulfilling the satisfaction of sex ever. Whether by audio-visual stimulation such as porn movie, simple visual stimulation such as porn picture, to more advance form of pornography such as - virtual sex or interactive girl. There is never a complete fulfillment of pornography. The person who consume this material need to find their own way to compensate with the stimulation that they receive. Not like in husband - wife sexual relationship where the stimuli is their partner, and the channel of fulfillment is sexual intercourse, pornography left the consumer without any partner and person to satisfy their personal excitement.
Pornography also about power, where you can exercise your entire freedom of fantasy and control of your sexual urges. Often pictured in the movie, the girl is always submitting and seems to enjoy sex even into the extreme. Sex is the only aspect that seems to matter in the life of a woman.
You wont find any porn movie that will depict that the woman refuse to having the intercourse with the man because she is just so tired from working the whole day in the office. You wont find any porn movie that will depict an interrupted intercourse because of the crying baby in the other room, you wont find any porn movie that will depict that sometimes sex doesn't happen simply because of the morning fight between the couple due to the burnt pants on the top of the ironing board or the unthrown garbage bin. Absolutely no!
In pornography sex seems to show the unrealistic view of life and the fantasy that will never have any end. People will feel satisfied and somehow relieve by watching porn movie because its release them for their own personal tension and expectation that might no be fulfilled in real life. After all, every human need channel to release. Some by eating, some by smoking, some by using drugs, and some other by watching pornography.
The woman will always be pretty and good looking in which not every man will ever get that kind of woman in their life. Another fantasy that often lure many man and also woman into the unrealistic world.
Now there is one bad side of unrealistic things in life, it is simply addictive. Fantasy is boundless and as you notice the growth of modern pornography into more "hardcore" its worrying since it seems we will never win against the power of fantasy. I am just hoping that rape, unwanted pregnancy, and other criminal sex offenses will not also grow into more "hardcore" way.
This is the sad fact yet this is the truth. However there is always hope when we look for an answer not from within but from the Divine once again. He who has give sex to begin with knows the right and true solution for all of us who are struggling with it.
What so amazing about it?
However personally speaking, i want to make my own reflection. Its not trying to define or giving a new insight about what it is and how it affect people. Its just a simple honesty on how pornography has affected my own life.
Pornography is simply fantasy, half truth - half reality. To begin with, Sex is a gift of the Divine for us to be joined in an intimate relationship with our most beloved one. It was always secured in the barrier called Marriage.
Pornography basically take away the sacred band and release the ultimate power of sex in total "freedom" and allow people to fantasize and explore the ultimate pleasure of sex without boundary. However, the trick of pornography its only stimulate certain aspect of the senses. Its never perfect and that is where the "half" part comes in. Pornography never fulfilling the satisfaction of sex ever. Whether by audio-visual stimulation such as porn movie, simple visual stimulation such as porn picture, to more advance form of pornography such as - virtual sex or interactive girl. There is never a complete fulfillment of pornography. The person who consume this material need to find their own way to compensate with the stimulation that they receive. Not like in husband - wife sexual relationship where the stimuli is their partner, and the channel of fulfillment is sexual intercourse, pornography left the consumer without any partner and person to satisfy their personal excitement.
Pornography also about power, where you can exercise your entire freedom of fantasy and control of your sexual urges. Often pictured in the movie, the girl is always submitting and seems to enjoy sex even into the extreme. Sex is the only aspect that seems to matter in the life of a woman.
You wont find any porn movie that will depict that the woman refuse to having the intercourse with the man because she is just so tired from working the whole day in the office. You wont find any porn movie that will depict an interrupted intercourse because of the crying baby in the other room, you wont find any porn movie that will depict that sometimes sex doesn't happen simply because of the morning fight between the couple due to the burnt pants on the top of the ironing board or the unthrown garbage bin. Absolutely no!
In pornography sex seems to show the unrealistic view of life and the fantasy that will never have any end. People will feel satisfied and somehow relieve by watching porn movie because its release them for their own personal tension and expectation that might no be fulfilled in real life. After all, every human need channel to release. Some by eating, some by smoking, some by using drugs, and some other by watching pornography.
The woman will always be pretty and good looking in which not every man will ever get that kind of woman in their life. Another fantasy that often lure many man and also woman into the unrealistic world.
Now there is one bad side of unrealistic things in life, it is simply addictive. Fantasy is boundless and as you notice the growth of modern pornography into more "hardcore" its worrying since it seems we will never win against the power of fantasy. I am just hoping that rape, unwanted pregnancy, and other criminal sex offenses will not also grow into more "hardcore" way.
This is the sad fact yet this is the truth. However there is always hope when we look for an answer not from within but from the Divine once again. He who has give sex to begin with knows the right and true solution for all of us who are struggling with it.
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