This blog might sound uncomfortable with many people but yet i've been asked this question again and again...
Indeed the question sound so vulgar and what kind of question is that?
Having said that, let us look at this question from the whole perspective of this blog...
We are living in the world where people look for pleasure and like it or not sex is one of the most wonderful pleasure someone can find...
Sex Industry, for whatever way you would like to say it has been one of the most successful business out there...
Prostistution, Pornography, and any other way of people try to fulfil their sexual gratification
Looking at pornography, i've been one of those who are hooked and tempted....so this come from someone who look at it in a very closer way.
My analysis goes like this, pornography work in several way. As we know our brain receive data and store it deep in our brain. For some times, pornography stimulates our visual receptor and hearing receptor. Both senses send the signal to our brain and the brain interpret it as something pleasurable.
Lets accept it, human are created as a sexual being and it will come naturally that this sexual stimulating senses will be deciphered in that way.
Therefore in sexual addiction, what we are hooked is simply that stimulation, because it linked to nice feeling in our brain.
Well, im not an M.D just someone who wants to have one (hehehe) but as far as my experience and studies go this is what i understand.
As you notice, that's why pornography industry keep following the flow of consumer. What i mean by that? Sex will alway need fulfilment, that is absolutely true. Sex at it self was made to bring pleasure, and as the reproductive way of human being. However, created with so complex brain, imagination takes place during this stimulation time.
S& M, Lolita, Bondage, Squirting, Orgies, Gang bang, Interacial, etc...etc is just some names on how our brain fulfiling its fantasy. With "normal" relationship, many people will not experience this things (at least in my conservative, kampong, concept of sex) therefore they fulfil it trough pornography.
One thing that i found, and i felt worthy to write here, is pornography will never bring love. No matter how fulfilling those sex performer seems to 'show' us on those video at the end of the day its just something people do for making bucks and money. Most of those porn star, after having "grandeur" sex on screen will not go home with their sex partner on screen and start to share their feeling about life, expectation, and family life.
I notice some porn star partner end up marrying each other, but the ratio is not considered big enough for me to become the example.
Many porn star boast about how they can reach orgasm on their scene. As far as that concern i do believe that could happen. Our body has it own biological reaction toward sexual stimulation, like it or not. Its natural.
But the question is, does love come natural to those couple after performing sex scene to each other? I hardly can agree, to some very little couple might be, but not in general.
I've seen enough adult movie, forgive me God for that....but now i come to the conclusion that how good sex can be is all depends on how that sex can bring two people together as a FAMILY.
That is the reason God create sex, because i believe the result of sex MUST end up in a couple who are willing to share not only their body to each other, but their life, their love, their pain, their faith, and basically everything.
Without that result sex is meaningless.
Unfortunately pornography will never fulfill that, because that is not the purpose of pornography to begin with. Pornography were never meant to be the way couple can reach the true meaning of LOVE.
So how about those so called 'educational' sex video? Those therapeutic one? for that i cant give too much explanation but one thing that i know...watching other people having sex, will absolutely make you feel to have sex with your partner too. But before continue on, one question. Your desire to have sex is whehter because you know that you fall in love more with your partner or simply to fulfilling the psychological stimulation of the picture you saw?
another question, how about those so called 'amateur', those couple who make their personal 'sex video' and publish it on the internet? well, what is their motives of showing their video on screen? so other people can have the same happy relationship like they do? So why dont start from screening their whole daily life and not only their sex life? Are they good in bed only?
Please dont get me wrong, i never condemn any of those people who work in sex industry. If that is the way they can make any money. By all grace im not in any authority to condemn their behavior, knowing i used to support their 'work' by consuming it. But my question goes to all of us who under the spell the pornography.
This reflection is one of those reflection that i found very fulfiling for me and i hope it will stay that way.
